Whether you're for or against 8, Just say No to H8
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Good people on both sides of Proposition 8 (Yes, there are good people who believe differently than you!–We embrace this concept in the abstract but find it difficult to choke down when confronted with an idea opposed to our deepest held beliefs) seem willing to strike out at the other side in ways they would find abhorrent if similar behavior were directed at them.
When threatened, even a fluffy baby chick pecks. And, most people, when their world view is challenged, strike out. Both sides of the Prop. 8 debate worry, whether rightly or wrongly that their lives will change for the worse depending on whether or not it passes. Both sides seem willing to engage in tactics guaranteed to make the other side gape open mouthed at their opponents and gasp, “See how awful THEY are!”
Just recently, Proponents of Prop. 8 shocked even some of their supporters with an ugly tactic. Sending a letter to companies that donated to the No on 8 Campaign, they threatened,”Were you to elect not to donate comparably [to our side], it would be a clear indication that you are in opposition to traditional marriage. You would leave us no other reasonable assumption. The names of any companies and organizations that choose not to donate in like manner to ProtectMarriage.com but have given to Equality California will be published.” Cries of blackmail rightfully rang through the No on 8 Campaign.
Yet, hard on its heels is a site which publishes the names of donors in support of Prop. 8. In an ugly attempt to hide anonymously while outing others, the site is called Mormons for Proposition 8 and appears on the surface to be a Mormon backed site dedicated to showing how “a stone can make a ripple” seemingly cheering on the idea that small contributors can band together to make large changes. However, viewers are encouraged to check lists of donors to the Yes on Prop. 8 campaigns (helpfully–yes, that is sarcasm–provided by the site) and identify which ones are Mormons.
Recently the Daily Kos urged readers to go to this site and
Find us some ammo.
Use any LEGAL tool at your disposal. Use OpenSecrets to see if these donors have contributed to…shall we say…less than honorable causes, or if any one of these big donors has done something otherwise egregious. If so, we have a legitimate case to make the Yes on 8 campaign return their contributions, or face a bunch of negative publicity.
Feel free to use Lexis-Nexis searches as well for anything useful, especially given that these people are using “morality” as their primary motivation to support Prop 8…if you find anything that belies that in any way…well, you know what to do.
If you find anything good, please email it to:equalityresearch at gmail dot com.
Make no mistake. This is as ugly as publishing the names of blacks who registered to vote during the Civil Rights Movement. Blacks who dared to register anyway might find themselves thrown off their farms or even murdered. This intimated people from registering. The site above and the Daily Kos attempts to intimidate people from donating. And this is a particularly ugly, bigoted move because attempts to do so based upon the religion of the donors.
Recently protesters stood in front of the Mormon Temple in Oakland. Here is a letter from one of the women attending what to them is an extremely sacred event. Protesters severely restricted access to the temple causing cars to back dangerously onto the freeway.
[There was a] large group of loud protesters who were standing on both sides of the street, yelling, screaming and waving signs. When we got to the top of the offramp, ready to make our turn, one protester jumped out right in front of our car. It took my husband all his self control to carefully maneuver around him to the left and proceed to the temple. I tried not to listen to all they were shouting at us, but I was shaking as I got to the temple front door.
Several of the sisters, especially the ones driving on their own, were crying …
As Jackie Ginn, a member of the church explained,
I respect everyone’s right to their own opinions…[but] Prop 8 is a matter that should be decided by the voters…UNTHREATENEDvoters. I seriously doubt that either of these two matters above willcause any LDS voters to change their votes. There are, of course, LDS voters who are anti-Prop 8, but I doubt the protesters at the Oakland temple took that into consideration. They could well have been harassing people on their side. This was purely an attack against Mormons.
Any effort to keep people from giving money to or keep people from voting for a cause they honestly believe in is hate. But more importantly, it causes fear and hate in return. Good people can honestly differ. Stealing signs, calling names, and forcing opponents into some stereotype of evil neither promotes the truth nor helps your cause in the long run. Presumably we all want to live in a world without hate. Feel free to reason, discuss, present facts but
Take a breath and don’t hate–whatever your position on 8.
Next week I’ll be voting against Proposition 8. I hope you’ll join with me.
The one argument that concerned me was that religious rights might be trampled on. But in reviewing the law that 8 is attempting to overturn I read,
“…affording same-sex couples the opportunity to obtain the designation of marriage will not impinge upon the religious freedom of any religious organization, official, or any other person; no religion will be required to change its religious policies or practices with regard to same-sex couples, and no religious officiant will be required to solemnize a marriage in contravention of his or her religious beliefs. (Cal. Const., art. I, § 4.)72″
Some people argue that historically a marriage exists between only a man and a woman and should therefore stay that way. But when laws banning interracial marriage were struck down they did so even though historically, since the state existed, blacks and whites were forbidden to intermarry. Few would argue now that interracial marriage should still be verboten. Bad laws should be changed. Period.
Another argument given against gay marriage is that domestic partnership legislation already basically gives the same rights to gays as everyone else excepting only the right to marry. I argue back that we have seen before, with segregation between blacks and whites, that separate usually fails to be equal. Denying gays the designation of “married” puts their partnerships and families at risk of seeming less valuable and would, in all likelihood, result in further discrimination.
I’m proud to vote against Proposition 8. I hope you all will join me. But whether you do or not, remember that there are good people on both sides of this argument. Please use reason to persuade, not hate to intimidate.
Thanks to Joe for letting me know about the Write to Marry Day and to Jackie for sending me much of the information I used here. The two of you together from very different positions on Prop 8 helped me untwine my emotions and try and express myself. Thank you both.